Resolving Arguments
Arguments are unavoidable where human relationships are concerned. This is because everyone views and understands things from his/her unique perspective, which is formed by a complex combination of experience, knowledge, preference, maturity, personality, religious orientation and even genetics! Hence, resolving arguments involves 4 key steps:
1. Address the argument only after both parties have cooled down.
2. Understand that everyone is "reasonable" from his/her perspective; no one deliberately tries to be unreasonable! This makes you non-judgemental and non-prejudiced!
3. Take time to sincerely listen and understand the other party's perspective.
4. Explain your own perspective (if you've done step 3 well, the other party would be most willing to hear you out too;o)
If steps 1-4 are done properly, the argument should disappear in a whiff - at worst, it becomes a disagreement; whether both parties agree to disagree would then depend on their maturity and level of respect for each other.
1. Address the argument only after both parties have cooled down.
2. Understand that everyone is "reasonable" from his/her perspective; no one deliberately tries to be unreasonable! This makes you non-judgemental and non-prejudiced!
3. Take time to sincerely listen and understand the other party's perspective.
4. Explain your own perspective (if you've done step 3 well, the other party would be most willing to hear you out too;o)
If steps 1-4 are done properly, the argument should disappear in a whiff - at worst, it becomes a disagreement; whether both parties agree to disagree would then depend on their maturity and level of respect for each other.
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